Pleasure Project Blog

Many of my clients are coming out of the fog of parenthood. Their kids have made it through the teenage years and are heading off to college or the working world. They don’t need parenting…

Leave to Come Home…   I recently spent time in the desert—visiting a handful of friends and family who have made it their part time home. I noticed a shift as I entered city limits.…

I recently jumped across the pond to see a dear friend and her family in Utrecht—a quaint, bustling town 40 minutes outside Amsterdam. I was struck by the inclusive, laissez-faire vibe related to sexuality.  …

Jessica came to see me for sex therapy. She doesn’t understand why she doesn’t want sex with her partner. She wants to want it, but most of the time she could go without. Our work…

In a retreat with Psychologist Diana Hill this spring, I did a gratitude meditation. She asked us to wander for 15 minutes and repeat “Thank you for X, Y, Z with each step.” I was…

Do you have election jitters? We are in strange times with our political system and many people I see in my practice have free floating anxiety about how this is all going to play out.…

Andrew and Ella decide to try for a child. Their sex life suddenly swerves to an unfamiliar path. They are acutely aware of the significance of their intimacy and feel self conscious as they try…

The World of Fetish: A Complex Exploration of Desire and Identity Fetishism is a multifaceted and often misunderstood aspect of human sexuality. It refers to a heightened attraction or fixation on specific objects, body parts,…

Slowing Your Post Erotic Roll to Savor the Afterglow Pillow talk, the intimate conversation and connection shared between couples immediately following sexual experiences, plays a vital role in deepening emotional bonds and enhancing relationship satisfaction. While physical intimacy…

Sensual touch is one of the most powerful forms of communication in human relationships. It transcends words, forging deep connections between partners by appealing to both emotional and physical senses. Through the act of touch, we…

I came out as lesbian at age 19 and have navigated that process repeatedly for three decades. The queer community is consistently neglected in research, and therefore our clinical knowledge is hampered. Pairing my passions…

Shame is a one of the hardest and most common issues related to mental health. Feeling “wrong” or bad in whatever form causes embarrassment, dread and avoidance. One of my favorite therapeutic tools to help…

Growing up in a conservative environment often comes with a set of rigid social norms and moral values that significantly shape one’s understanding of sexuality. For many of my clients, these formative years can create…

How do you prioritize what matters in your life? People have very different strategies and expectations for setting and navigating priorities. My fellow Type A’s put most things on a list and take extreme joy…

There’s a long-standing joke that therapy starts with “tell me about your mother.” While everything doesn’t come back to that single caregiver, much of our worldview does hinge on how we were raised and shown care. Unconscious…

One of the questions I often ask my clients is why – simply why do you want to have a different or “better” s*x life? It seems like a given that everybody would want this, and yet…

Hot Potato Porn Porn is a loaded topic. It sits squarely between the two hats I wear professionally: sex therapist and sex addiction therapist. For some, porn is lubricant for letting go. Albeit tragically unrealistic,…

Embarking on a journey of self-discovery and enhancing intimacy within your relationships is a profound and empowering experience. This week, we bring you a curated list of books that delve into the realms of passion,…