Pleasure Project Blog
Saying “No” Without Shutting Things Down
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
History of Kissing
Kissing feels primal, instinctual—even essential to romantic connection. But the history of kissing is interesting and surprisingly inconsistent. I find that it’s also the first way many lovers make contact and decide if they want to proceed into something more meaningful.
Your Partner Isn’t a Mind Reader
You know those moments when you think, “If they really loved me, they’d know”?It’s a common thought. It sneaks in when we’re feeling unseen, misunderstood, or just plain tired of saying the same thing over and over. But here’s the truth that’s equal parts frustrating and freeing: your partner isn’t a mind reader.
Financial Partnerships
Money can be a major stress point in relationships—but it doesn’t have to be. When couples work together on their finances, they build trust, reduce conflict, and set themselves up for a stronger future. Financial planning as a team is less about spreadsheets and more about communication, shared goals, and accountability.
Autism & Sexuality
In this episode of Pleasure Project: Sex and Relationships, Host Dr. Jenn Kennedy asked Guest Dr. David Wohlsifer to return–this time to discuss a topic she is seeing more and more in her clinical practice as a sex therapist: autism and the unique experiences autistics face exploring their relationships and sexuality.
Vacation Sex
Why Is It Easier to Have Sex When I’m on Vacation? Vacations are often associated with relaxation, adventure, and a break from routine. Many people find that they have more sex while traveling than they…
Sexuality in Midlife
Midlife, typically defined as the period between ages 40 - 65, is a pivotal phase characterized by numerous transitions that can significantly influence an individual’s sexual health and intimacy. Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining a fulfilling and healthy sexual life during this stage.
Happiness in a Sexless Marriage
A sexless relationship can be a deeply challenging experience, often raising questions about love, connection, and personal fulfillment. Society tends to equate physical intimacy with relationship success, but happiness in a marriage is not solely dependent on sex.
Love Languages
Long-term relationships are built on a foundation of love, trust, and understanding, but maintaining that foundation over time requires effort and intentionality.
Hibernation
When we think of hibernation, our minds often drift to bears slumbering in caves, bats tucked into crevices, or frogs freezing in suspended animation. Animals use hibernation as a survival mechanism, conserving energy during harsh winters when resources are scarce. But what if humans also hibernate—not in the literal sense but emotionally and relationally?
Goal Setting
Empty Nesting
Relationship to Pleasure
I recently spent time in the desert—visiting a handful of friends and family who have made it their part time home. I noticed a shift as I entered city limits. The energy is light and joyful. People are playful and engaged.
Travel & Sex
Exploring the Netherlands' Progressive Approach to Sex and Sexuality During my recent travel to visit a dear friend and her family in Utrecht, a charming town just 40 minutes from Amsterdam, I was struck by…
Women’s Sexuality
Jessica came to see me for sex therapy. She doesn’t understand why she doesn’t want sex with her partner. She wants to want it, but most of the time she could go without. Our work…
The Power of Gratitude
In a retreat with Psychologist Diana Hill this spring, I did a gratitude meditation. She asked us to wander for 15 minutes and repeat “Thank you for X, Y, Z with each step.” I was…
Election Stress
Do you have election jitters? We are in strange times with our political system and many people I see in my practice have free floating anxiety about how this is all going to play out.…
Trying to Conceive
Andrew and Ella decide to try for a child. Their sex life suddenly swerves to an unfamiliar path while trying to conceive. They are acutely aware of the significance of their intimacy and feel self…
Pillow Talk
Slowing Your Post-Erotic Roll to Savor the Afterglow Pillow talk—the intimate conversation and connection that couples share immediately after sex—plays a vital role in deepening emotional bonds and enhancing relationship satisfaction. While people often emphasize…