Pleasure Project Blog
Why “Good Sex” Looks Different in Long-Term Relationships
December 10, 2025
Good Sex Evolves. Here’s Why That’s a Good Thing When we think about “good sex,” most of us imagine heat, spontaneity, and that electric pull you feel when everything just clicks. But over time, years into a…
How to Talk About Lube Without Embarrassment
December 10, 2025
Few words make people squirm quite like lube. Somehow, this simple, useful, glorious little helper has gotten wrapped up in shame, awkwardness, and outdated assumptions like it’s only for “older people” or those who “have a…
Power Dynamics in Sex
October 8, 2025
Who’s Leading, Who’s Following
When we think about sex, most of us focus on desire, pleasure, maybe even performance. But underneath all of that is something we rarely talk about: power.
When we think about sex, most of us focus on desire, pleasure, maybe even performance. But underneath all of that is something we rarely talk about: power.
Rituals of Intimacy Outside the Bedroom
October 8, 2025
Why Connection Isn’t Just About Sex
When we hear the word “intimacy,” most of us think about sex. Hot touches, steamy moments, what happens behind closed doors. And yes—sex is one powerful form of intimacy.
When we hear the word “intimacy,” most of us think about sex. Hot touches, steamy moments, what happens behind closed doors. And yes—sex is one powerful form of intimacy.
Rom-Com Love
September 2, 2025
A Set Up for Disappointment
If you grew up in the heyday of rom-coms—When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, Notting Hill, 10 Things I Hate About You—you were fed a very specific story about love and sex.
If you grew up in the heyday of rom-coms—When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, Notting Hill, 10 Things I Hate About You—you were fed a very specific story about love and sex.
Sex Without Orgasm
August 28, 2025
Why It’s Still Worth It
We’ve been sold a very narrow version of what “good sex” looks like: hot, heavy, and always ending in orgasm. It’s the grand finale, the goal, the thing everyone’s supposedly chasing.
We’ve been sold a very narrow version of what “good sex” looks like: hot, heavy, and always ending in orgasm. It’s the grand finale, the goal, the thing everyone’s supposedly chasing.
Genital Self-Esteem
August 6, 2025
How Do You Like Your Parts?
You’d think with all the time we spend being sexual (or thinking about sex), we’d have a solid relationship with our own bodies. But for many people, there’s a quiet undercurrent of shame, awkwardness, or just plain confusion when it comes to genitals.
You’d think with all the time we spend being sexual (or thinking about sex), we’d have a solid relationship with our own bodies. But for many people, there’s a quiet undercurrent of shame, awkwardness, or just plain confusion when it comes to genitals.
How to Share a Fantasy
July 28, 2025
Take the Relational Dive
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
Saying “No” Without Shutting Things Down
July 28, 2025
Take the Relational Dive
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
History of Kissing
July 8, 2025
The Many Ways We Lock Lips
Kissing feels primal, instinctual—even essential to romantic connection. But the history of kissing is interesting and surprisingly inconsistent. I find that it’s also the first way many lovers make contact and decide if they want to proceed into something more meaningful.
Kissing feels primal, instinctual—even essential to romantic connection. But the history of kissing is interesting and surprisingly inconsistent. I find that it’s also the first way many lovers make contact and decide if they want to proceed into something more meaningful.
Your Partner Isn’t a Mind Reader
June 5, 2025
Why Communication Matters for Intimacy
You know those moments when you think, “If they really loved me, they’d know”?It’s a common thought. It sneaks in when we’re feeling unseen, misunderstood, or just plain tired of saying the same thing over and over. But here’s the truth that’s equal parts frustrating and freeing: your partner isn’t a mind reader.
You know those moments when you think, “If they really loved me, they’d know”?It’s a common thought. It sneaks in when we’re feeling unseen, misunderstood, or just plain tired of saying the same thing over and over. But here’s the truth that’s equal parts frustrating and freeing: your partner isn’t a mind reader.
Financial Partnerships
April 29, 2025
Couples, Finances & Future
Money can be a major stress point in relationships—but it doesn’t have to be. When couples work together on their finances, they build trust, reduce conflict, and set themselves up for a stronger future. Financial planning as a team is less about spreadsheets and more about communication, shared goals, and accountability.
Money can be a major stress point in relationships—but it doesn’t have to be. When couples work together on their finances, they build trust, reduce conflict, and set themselves up for a stronger future. Financial planning as a team is less about spreadsheets and more about communication, shared goals, and accountability.
Autism & Sexuality
April 29, 2025
Autism & Sexuality
In this episode of Pleasure Project: Sex and Relationships, Host Dr. Jenn Kennedy asked Guest Dr. David Wohlsifer to return–this time to discuss a topic she is seeing more and more in her clinical practice as a sex therapist: autism and the unique experiences autistics face exploring their relationships and sexuality.
In this episode of Pleasure Project: Sex and Relationships, Host Dr. Jenn Kennedy asked Guest Dr. David Wohlsifer to return–this time to discuss a topic she is seeing more and more in her clinical practice as a sex therapist: autism and the unique experiences autistics face exploring their relationships and sexuality.
Vacation Sex
April 2, 2025
Why Is It Easier to Have Sex When I’m on Vacation? Vacations are often associated with relaxation, adventure, and a break from routine. Many people find that they have more sex while traveling than they…
Sexuality in Midlife
March 13, 2025
Navigating Changes, Enhancing Intimacy
Midlife, typically defined as the period between ages 40 - 65, is a pivotal phase characterized by numerous transitions that can significantly influence an individual’s sexual health and intimacy. Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining a fulfilling and healthy sexual life during this stage.
Midlife, typically defined as the period between ages 40 - 65, is a pivotal phase characterized by numerous transitions that can significantly influence an individual’s sexual health and intimacy. Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining a fulfilling and healthy sexual life during this stage.
Happiness in a Sexless Marriage
February 28, 2025
Intimacy More Broadly Defined
A sexless relationship can be a deeply challenging experience, often raising questions about love, connection, and personal fulfillment. Society tends to equate physical intimacy with relationship success, but happiness in a marriage is not solely dependent on sex.
A sexless relationship can be a deeply challenging experience, often raising questions about love, connection, and personal fulfillment. Society tends to equate physical intimacy with relationship success, but happiness in a marriage is not solely dependent on sex.
Love Languages
February 28, 2025
Love Languages in Long-Term Relationships (and the Bedroom)
Long-term relationships are built on a foundation of love, trust, and understanding, but maintaining that foundation over time requires effort and intentionality.
Long-term relationships are built on a foundation of love, trust, and understanding, but maintaining that foundation over time requires effort and intentionality.
Hibernation
February 28, 2025
Hibernation: A Tale of Survival and Connection
When we think of hibernation, our minds often drift to bears slumbering in caves, bats tucked into crevices, or frogs freezing in suspended animation. Animals use hibernation as a survival mechanism, conserving energy during harsh winters when resources are scarce. But what if humans also hibernate—not in the literal sense but emotionally and relationally?
When we think of hibernation, our minds often drift to bears slumbering in caves, bats tucked into crevices, or frogs freezing in suspended animation. Animals use hibernation as a survival mechanism, conserving energy during harsh winters when resources are scarce. But what if humans also hibernate—not in the literal sense but emotionally and relationally?
Goal Setting
January 9, 2025
Life gets busy, routines take over, and before you know it, you and your partner might feel a bit disconnected or stuck in a rut. The solution? Goal setting. While most people associate goals with careers or fitness, they can be just as transformative when applied to your relationship and sex life.
Empty Nesting
December 19, 2024
Many of my clients are coming out of the fog of parenthood. Their kids have made it through the teenage years and are heading off to college or the working world. They don’t need parenting in the same way, except for an occasional Venmo transfer or airport run. They are empty nesting.