Pleasure Project Blog
Late Stage Capitalism Is In Your Bed
Burnout doesn’t usually show up because you’re weak. More often, it settles in quietly under the weight of constant productivity, financial pressure, and the subtle message that your value is tied to output. One of the most…
Gratitude & Intimacy
Passion doesn’t usually disappear because love is gone. More often, it fades quietly under the weight of familiarity, stress, and the subtle shift from noticing to assuming. One of the most underrated, and evidence-backed, ways to keep…
When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Chore
There’s a quiet concern I hear often in therapy rooms and inboxes alike: “I love my partner… but sex feels like another thing on my to-do list.” If you’ve found yourself thinking this, you’re not broken,…
The Gender Orgasm Gap
Why It Matters Let’s talk about something that’s been hiding in plain sight: The orgasm gap. Across countless studies (and probably countless bedrooms), one pattern keeps showing up: In heterosexual encounters, men are significantly more likely to orgasm…
Porn Use: How to Have Conversations About It
Few topics make couples freeze faster than the word porn. Some people watch it together. Some watch privately. Some don’t want it in the picture at all. And yet, porn often becomes a silent player in…
The Surprising Ways Exercise Affects Your Sex Life
Exercise Changes How You Experience Pleasure We all know exercise is “good for you.” It lowers stress, boosts mood, strengthens your heart, keeps your body moving. But what most people don’t realize is that exercise also changes your sex…
Why “Good Sex” Looks Different in Long-Term Relationships
Good Sex Evolves. Here’s Why That’s a Good Thing When we think about “good sex,” most of us imagine heat, spontaneity, and that electric pull you feel when everything just clicks. But over time, years into a…
How to Talk About Lube Without Embarrassment
Few words make people squirm quite like lube. Somehow, this simple, useful, glorious little helper has gotten wrapped up in shame, awkwardness, and outdated assumptions like it’s only for “older people” or those who “have a…
Power Dynamics in Sex
When we think about sex, most of us focus on desire, pleasure, maybe even performance. But underneath all of that is something we rarely talk about: power.
Rituals of Intimacy Outside the Bedroom
When we hear the word “intimacy,” most of us think about sex. Hot touches, steamy moments, what happens behind closed doors. And yes—sex is one powerful form of intimacy.
Rom-Com Love
If you grew up in the heyday of rom-coms—When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, Notting Hill, 10 Things I Hate About You—you were fed a very specific story about love and sex.
Sex Without Orgasm
We’ve been sold a very narrow version of what “good sex” looks like: hot, heavy, and always ending in orgasm. It’s the grand finale, the goal, the thing everyone’s supposedly chasing.
Genital Self-Esteem
You’d think with all the time we spend being sexual (or thinking about sex), we’d have a solid relationship with our own bodies. But for many people, there’s a quiet undercurrent of shame, awkwardness, or just plain confusion when it comes to genitals.
How to Share a Fantasy
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
Saying “No” Without Shutting Things Down
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
History of Kissing
Kissing feels primal, instinctual—even essential to romantic connection. But the history of kissing is interesting and surprisingly inconsistent. I find that it’s also the first way many lovers make contact and decide if they want to proceed into something more meaningful.
Your Partner Isn’t a Mind Reader
You know those moments when you think, “If they really loved me, they’d know”?It’s a common thought. It sneaks in when we’re feeling unseen, misunderstood, or just plain tired of saying the same thing over and over. But here’s the truth that’s equal parts frustrating and freeing: your partner isn’t a mind reader.
Financial Partnerships
Money can be a major stress point in relationships—but it doesn’t have to be. When couples work together on their finances, they build trust, reduce conflict, and set themselves up for a stronger future. Financial planning as a team is less about spreadsheets and more about communication, shared goals, and accountability.
Autism & Sexuality
In this episode of Pleasure Project: Sex and Relationships, Host Dr. Jenn Kennedy asked Guest Dr. David Wohlsifer to return–this time to discuss a topic she is seeing more and more in her clinical practice as a sex therapist: autism and the unique experiences autistics face exploring their relationships and sexuality.
Vacation Sex
Why Is It Easier to Have Sex When I’m on Vacation? Vacations are often associated with relaxation, adventure, and a break from routine. Many people find that they have more sex while traveling than they…