The Power of Gratitude
In a retreat with Psychologist Diana Hill this spring, I did a gratitude meditation. She asked us to wander for 15 minutes and repeat “Thank you for X, Y, Z with each step.” I was initially distracted by the pacing,…
Trying to Conceive
Andrew and Ella decide to try for a child. Their sex life suddenly swerves to an unfamiliar path while trying to conceive. They are acutely aware of the significance of their intimacy and feel self conscious as they try to…
Pillow Talk
Slowing Your Post-Erotic Roll to Savor the Afterglow Pillow talk—the intimate conversation and connection that couples share immediately after sex—plays a vital role in deepening emotional bonds and enhancing relationship satisfaction. While people often emphasize physical intimacy as a key…
Sensual Touch
Sensual touch is one of the most powerful forms of communication in human relationships. It transcends words, forging deep connections between partners by appealing to both emotional and physical senses. Through the act of touch, we express affection, arousal, and intimacy,…
Best Practices Review for Clinicians Offering Sex Therapy with Lesbians
I came out as lesbian at age 19 and have navigated that process repeatedly for three decades. The queer community is consistently neglected in research, and therefore our clinical knowledge is hampered. Pairing my passions of sexuality and queerness, my…
Erectile Dysfunction
Brad was starting to avoid sex. He couldn’t count on having an erection, so his anxiety would spike at the thought of initiating intimacy. His partner noticed the avoidance but she did not link it to his occasional ED. She…
In the Flesh vs. On the Screen
In our modern, digital age, the accessibility of porn has changed how we approach sexuality and if we prioritize humans over screens. While porn consumption is often seen as a private, harmless activity, its effects can be far-reaching. Human relationships…
Embracing Sexuality After a Conservative Upbringing
Growing up in a conservative environment often comes with a set of rigid social norms and moral values that significantly shape one’s understanding of sexuality. For many of my clients, these formative years can create deep-seated feelings of shame and guilt,…
Porn: In Good Times or in Bad
Hot Potato Porn Porn is a loaded topic. It sits squarely between the two hats I wear professionally: sex therapist and sex addictiontherapist. For some, porn is lubricant for letting go. Albeit tragically unrealistic, it often provides a welcome spark…