Yes / No / Maybe: An Erotic Exploration List
What are you curious about? What's a definite no? And what sounds sexy in fantasy - but maybe not in real life? The Yes / No / Maybe List is a tool designed to help you explore your desires, boundaries,…
Sex Tech: What’s Out There & What’s Actually Useful
The Explosion of Options Sex tech (or OG toys) has expanded quickly. And like most rapidly growing industries, it’s a mix of thoughtful innovation and… things no one really asked for. The messaging tends to focus on enhancement. More pleasure.…
Desire vs. Arousal: The Mismatch That Confuses Everyone
The Core Confusion Most people assume desire and arousal are the same thing. They use the words interchangeably, as if wanting sex and feeling turned on are part of one seamless experience. But clinically, they’re distinct processes. And when they…
What Reality TV Teaches Us About Modern Intimacy
Reality TV isn’t really about love. It’s about visibility. Who gets chosen. Who gets rejected. Who is desirable enough to stay. And who is sent home. The reason reality dating shows captivate us isn’t just drama. It’s because they amplify the…
When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Chore
There’s a quiet concern I hear often in therapy rooms and inboxes alike: “I love my partner… but sex feels like another thing on my to-do list.” If you’ve found yourself thinking this, you’re not broken, and neither is your relationship.…
Porn Use: How to Have Conversations About It
Few topics make couples freeze faster than the word porn. Some people watch it together. Some watch privately. Some don’t want it in the picture at all. And yet, porn often becomes a silent player in relationships, shaping expectations, desire, and…
How to Talk About Lube Without Embarrassment
Few words make people squirm quite like lube. Somehow, this simple, useful, glorious little helper has gotten wrapped up in shame, awkwardness, and outdated assumptions like it’s only for “older people” or those who “have a problem.” But here’s the truth:…
Relationship to Pleasure
Leave to Come Home…
I recently spent time in the desert—visiting a handful of friends and family who have made it their part time home. I noticed a shift as I entered city limits. The energy is light and joyful. People are playful and engaged.
I recently spent time in the desert—visiting a handful of friends and family who have made it their part time home. I noticed a shift as I entered city limits. The energy is light and joyful. People are playful and engaged.
Women’s Sexuality
Jessica came to see me for sex therapy. She doesn’t understand why she doesn’t want sex with her partner. She wants to want it, but most of the time she could go without. Our work together is not linear. Rather,…
