The Invisible Sexual Script Running Your Bedroom Most of us like to think we're making our own decisions about sex—what we want, how often we want it, who initiates, what feels good, and what a satisfying sexual experience looks like…
The Sexual Double Standards We Still Haven’t Outgrown We like to think we've become more sexually progressive. Women can talk openly about pleasure. Dating apps have normalized casual sex. Conversations about consent, desire, sexual orientation, and nontraditional relationships are happening…
Why Sex After Childbirth Can Feel So Different There’s a strange cultural expectation around sex after having a baby. You go to your postpartum appointment, your provider checks that you’re healing, and somewhere around the six-week mark, you may hear…
Why Couples Stop Kissing Think about the beginning of a relationship. There was probably a lot of kissing. Kissing hello. Kissing goodbye. Making out on the couch. Kissing in the kitchen for absolutely no practical reason. Then, somewhere along the way, it…
What Midlife Teaches Us About Pleasure When we're younger, pleasure often feels tied to achievement. We tell ourselves we'll relax after the promotion. We'll enjoy ourselves after the kids are older. We'll prioritize our relationships after life slows down. Then…
Relationship Audit: 10 Questions Couples Should Ask Annually Most people schedule yearly physicals, review their finances, and service their cars. Yet many couples go years without intentionally checking in on the health of their relationship. Relationships don't usually fall apart…
The Cultural Spillover You don’t have to be in a non-monogamous relationship to be influenced by how people think about them. Polyamory tends to get simplified. Either idealized as freedom or dismissed as dysfunction. But the myths surrounding it often shape how…
The Explosion of Options Sex tech (or OG toys) has expanded quickly. And like most rapidly growing industries, it’s a mix of thoughtful innovation and… things no one really asked for. The messaging tends to focus on enhancement. More pleasure…
The Misheard Message These two statements sound similar. Close enough that most couples don’t pause to distinguish them. But they land very differently. “I don’t want sex” often gets interpreted as global. A lack of attraction. A loss of interest…
The Core Confusion Most people assume desire and arousal are the same thing. They use the words interchangeably, as if wanting sex and feeling turned on are part of one seamless experience. But clinically, they’re distinct processes. And when they…