Rituals of Intimacy Outside the Bedroom
Why Connection Isn’t Just About Sex
When we hear the word “intimacy,” most of us think about sex. Hot touches, steamy moments, what happens behind closed doors. And yes—sex is one powerful form of intimacy.
Sex Without Orgasm
Why It’s Still Worth It
We’ve been sold a very narrow version of what “good sex” looks like: hot, heavy, and always ending in orgasm. It’s the grand finale, the goal, the thing everyone’s supposedly chasing.
Genital Self-Esteem
How Do You Like Your Parts?
You’d think with all the time we spend being sexual (or thinking about sex), we’d have a solid relationship with our own bodies. But for many people, there’s a quiet undercurrent of shame, awkwardness, or just plain confusion when it comes to genitals.
How to Share a Fantasy
Take the Relational Dive
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
Saying “No” Without Shutting Things Down
Take the Relational Dive
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
Vacation Sex
Why Is It Easier to Have Sex When I’m on Vacation? Vacations are often associated with relaxation, adventure, and a break from routine. Many people find that they have more sex while traveling than they do in their everyday lives…
Sexuality in Midlife
Navigating Changes, Enhancing Intimacy
Midlife, typically defined as the period between ages 40 - 65, is a pivotal phase characterized by numerous transitions that can significantly influence an individual’s sexual health and intimacy. Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining a fulfilling and healthy sexual life during this stage.
Happiness in a Sexless Marriage
Intimacy More Broadly Defined
A sexless relationship can be a deeply challenging experience, often raising questions about love, connection, and personal fulfillment. Society tends to equate physical intimacy with relationship success, but happiness in a marriage is not solely dependent on sex.
Empty Nesting
Many of my clients are coming out of the fog of parenthood. Their kids have made it through the teenage years and are heading off to college or the working world. They don’t need parenting in the same way, except for an occasional Venmo transfer or airport run. They are empty nesting.
Relationship to Pleasure
Leave to Come Home…
I recently spent time in the desert—visiting a handful of friends and family who have made it their part time home. I noticed a shift as I entered city limits. The energy is light and joyful. People are playful and engaged.