Exercise Changes How You Experience Pleasure We all know exercise is “good for you.” It lowers stress, boosts mood, strengthens your heart, keeps your body moving. But what most people don’t realize is that exercise also changes your sex life, sometimes in surprising ways…
Intimacy More Broadly Defined
A sexless relationship can be a deeply challenging experience, often raising questions about love, connection, and personal fulfillment. Society tends to equate physical intimacy with relationship success, but happiness in a marriage is not solely dependent on sex.
Hibernation: A Tale of Survival and Connection
When we think of hibernation, our minds often drift to bears slumbering in caves, bats tucked into crevices, or frogs freezing in suspended animation. Animals use hibernation as a survival mechanism, conserving energy during harsh winters when resources are scarce. But what if humans also hibernate—not in the literal sense but emotionally and relationally?
Brad was starting to avoid sex. He couldn’t count on having an erection, so his anxiety would spike at the thought of initiating intimacy. His partner noticed the avoidance but she did not link it to his occasional ED. She…
How do you prioritize what matters in your life? People have very different strategies and expectations for setting and navigating priorities. My fellow Type A’s put most things on a list and take extreme joy and checking it off, whereas…
Anyone over 40 years old knows that sleeping becomes a closely guarded, prized experience. It’s how we regenerate and keep our minds clear and focused. It’s also hard to come by for many people, and having someone next to you…
We’ve all been there. In fact, we’ve likely been on both sides of the no, of sexual rejection, and neither side is easy. You and your partner are feeling frisky, and the interest seems to be mutual and building in…
One of the most frequent reasons people come to see me as a sex therapist is to talk about the lack of desire they feel in their long-term relationship. These couples have been together 10, 20 even 40+ years and have significant shared…
Remember when you first met? It was hot and heavy. You couldn’t stop having sex. You replayed all the little moments when you were apart. You felt tingly when you were about to see each other again. Sex felt organic…
Does a fish know it’s wet? Much like a fish swimming in the ocean with water as a lifelong given to their conditions, women are often floating in a sea of cultural myths that go unchecked. These myths hold you back…