Good Sex Evolves. Here’s Why That’s a Good Thing When we think about “good sex,” most of us imagine heat, spontaneity, and that electric pull you feel when everything just clicks. But over time, years into a relationship, sex often changes. The…
Few words make people squirm quite like lube. Somehow, this simple, useful, glorious little helper has gotten wrapped up in shame, awkwardness, and outdated assumptions like it’s only for “older people” or those who “have a problem.” But here’s the truth:…
Who’s Leading, Who’s Following
When we think about sex, most of us focus on desire, pleasure, maybe even performance. But underneath all of that is something we rarely talk about: power.
Why Connection Isn’t Just About Sex
When we hear the word “intimacy,” most of us think about sex. Hot touches, steamy moments, what happens behind closed doors. And yes—sex is one powerful form of intimacy.
A Set Up for Disappointment
If you grew up in the heyday of rom-coms—When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle, Notting Hill, 10 Things I Hate About You—you were fed a very specific story about love and sex.
Why It’s Still Worth It
We’ve been sold a very narrow version of what “good sex” looks like: hot, heavy, and always ending in orgasm. It’s the grand finale, the goal, the thing everyone’s supposedly chasing.
How Do You Like Your Parts?
You’d think with all the time we spend being sexual (or thinking about sex), we’d have a solid relationship with our own bodies. But for many people, there’s a quiet undercurrent of shame, awkwardness, or just plain confusion when it comes to genitals.
Take the Relational Dive
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
Take the Relational Dive
You’ve been thinking about a fantasy—something that turns you on, something you’ve never said out loud. Maybe you want to share it with your partner. But the worry creeps in: What if they judge me? What if they get quiet or weird? What if I ruin what we have?
The Many Ways We Lock Lips
Kissing feels primal, instinctual—even essential to romantic connection. But the history of kissing is interesting and surprisingly inconsistent. I find that it’s also the first way many lovers make contact and decide if they want to proceed into something more meaningful.