Erectile Dysfunction
Brad was starting to avoid sex. He couldn’t count on having an erection, so his anxiety would spike at the thought of initiating intimacy. His partner noticed the avoidance but she did not link it to his occasional ED. She…
In the Flesh vs. On the Screen
In our modern, digital age, the accessibility of porn has changed how we approach sexuality and if we prioritize humans over screens. While porn consumption is often seen as a private, harmless activity, its effects can be far-reaching. Human relationships…
Scheduled Sex
How do you prioritize what matters in your life? People have very different strategies and expectations for setting and navigating priorities. My fellow Type A’s put most things on a list and take extreme joy and checking it off, whereas…
Attachment Strategies in the Bedroom…
There’s a long-standing joke that therapy starts with “tell me about your mother.” While everything doesn’t come back to that single caregiver, much of our worldview does hinge on how we were raised and shown care. Unconscious expectations and perceptions are deeply…
The Function of Sex
One of the questions I often ask my clients is why – simply why do you want to have a different or “better” s*x life? It seems like a given that everybody would want this, and yet most people don’t stop to…
Good Vibrations
I’m currently reading Betty Dodson’s Sex for One. I am delighted by her evangelism for the pursuit of pleasure. Starting in the late 1960s, Dodson, an artist, turned her focus toward eroticism. She began drawing nudes, and she had several…
Female Masturbation
When I Think About You, I Touch Myself (diVINYLS) That song seemed so naughty in 1990. Because I was 13 and because no woman had ever admitted to touching herself, I couldn’t believe it was singing through my radio. With no evidence…
Debunking Sexual Myths
Does a fish know it’s wet? Much like a fish swimming in the ocean with water as a lifelong given to their conditions, women are often floating in a sea of cultural myths that go unchecked. These myths hold you back…