Goal Setting
Life gets busy, routines take over, and before you know it, you and your partner might feel a bit disconnected or stuck in a rut. The solution? Goal setting. While most people associate goals with careers or fitness, they can…
Empty Nesting
Many of my clients are coming out of the fog of parenthood. Their kids have made it through the teenage years and are heading off to college or the working world. They don’t need parenting in the same way, except…
Relationship to Pleasure
Leave to Come Home… I recently spent time in the desert—visiting a handful of friends and family who have made it their part time home. I noticed a shift as I entered city limits. The energy is light and joyful.…
Travel & Sex
Exploring the Netherlands' Progressive Approach to Sex and Sexuality During my recent travel to visit a dear friend and her family in Utrecht, a charming town just 40 minutes from Amsterdam, I was struck by the inclusive, relaxed attitude toward…
Women’s Sexuality
Jessica came to see me for sex therapy. She doesn’t understand why she doesn’t want sex with her partner. She wants to want it, but most of the time she could go without. Our work together is not linear. Rather,…
The Power of Gratitude
In a retreat with Psychologist Diana Hill this spring, I did a gratitude meditation. She asked us to wander for 15 minutes and repeat “Thank you for X, Y, Z with each step.” I was initially distracted by the pacing,…
Election Stress
Do you have election jitters? We are in strange times with our political system and many people I see in my practice have free floating anxiety about how this is all going to play out. Election stress can significantly impact…
Trying to Conceive
Andrew and Ella decide to try for a child. Their sex life suddenly swerves to an unfamiliar path while trying to conceive. They are acutely aware of the significance of their intimacy and feel self conscious as they try to…
Pillow Talk
Slowing Your Post-Erotic Roll to Savor the Afterglow Pillow talk—the intimate conversation and connection that couples share immediately after sex—plays a vital role in deepening emotional bonds and enhancing relationship satisfaction. While people often emphasize physical intimacy as a key…