Handling Sexual Rejection
We’ve all been there. In fact, we’ve likely been on both sides of the no, and neither side is easy. You and your partner are feeling frisky, and the interest seems to be mutual and building in heat. And then…
What’s Different About Lesbian Sex?
June is Pride Month 🌈 I’m offering a Pleasure Circle for lesbian and bisexual women in July. I’m also dedicating this newsletter to the topic of my PhD dissertation: Sex Therapy with Lesbians. My goal was to contribute insight about how same-sex…
Female Masturbation
When I Think About You, I Touch Myself (diVINYLS) That song seemed so naughty in 1990. Because I was 13 and because no woman had ever admitted to touching herself, I couldn’t believe it was singing through my radio. With no evidence…
Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships
One of the most frequent reasons people come to see me as a sex therapist is to talk about the lack of desire they feel in their long-term relationship. These couples have been together 10, 20 even 40+ years and…
Pleasure Circle Participant Feedback
I recently received honest and meaningful input from the cohort that just completed the Pleasure Circle. They gave me some awesome feedback, and I thought it might be helpful if you're deciding whether this program is for you or someone…
Releasing Inertia
Remember when you first met? It was hot and heavy. You couldn’t stop having sex. You replayed all the little moments when you were apart. You felt tingly when you were about to see each other again. Sex felt organic…
Debunking Sexual Myths
Does a fish know it’s wet? Much like a fish swimming in the ocean with water as a lifelong given to their conditions, women are often floating in a sea of cultural myths that go unchecked. These myths hold you back…
Be Your Own Damn Valentine
Are you ready for a MORE than satisfying sex life? The Pleasure Tribe is Calling Does sex feel like a mystery, a hassle or a messy & complicated thing you avoid? Are you afraid, awkward or shut down regarding sex…
Turn Up the Volume on Your Senses
What’s your relationship to pleasure? Sounds like an easy one, right? We love to see beauty, enjoy tasty things and feel all the good stuff. But really, do you allow yourself to relax, wind down and feel present in your…
It’s Hard Feel Pleasure With All That Pressure
So, you want to have sex. However, the audience (of your mind) has become unruly. They are critical and unforgiving. They notice anything and everything you are doing wrong. Their insults or doubt might include comments about how you look,…