Erectile Dysfunction
Brad was starting to avoid sex. He couldn’t count on having an erection, so his anxiety would spike at the thought of initiating intimacy. His partner noticed the avoidance but she did not link it to his occasional ED. She…
In the Flesh vs. On the Screen
In our modern, digital age, the accessibility of porn has changed how we approach sexuality and if we prioritize humans over screens. While porn consumption is often seen as a private, harmless activity, its effects can be far-reaching. Human relationships…
Pleasure and Intimacy
How can you have satisfying sex and feel more pleasure? More sensuality? In this episode, Diana welcomes Dr. Jenn Kennedy, a board-certified sex therapist, to explore ways to experience more pleasure and intimacy with our partner(s). Dr. Kennedy shares insights…
Scheduled Sex
How do you prioritize what matters in your life? People have very different strategies and expectations for setting and navigating priorities. My fellow Type A’s put most things on a list and take extreme joy and checking it off, whereas…
Attachment Strategies in the Bedroom…
There’s a long-standing joke that therapy starts with “tell me about your mother.” While everything doesn’t come back to that single caregiver, much of our worldview does hinge on how we were raised and shown care. Unconscious expectations and perceptions are deeply…
The Function of Sex
One of the questions I often ask my clients is why – simply why do you want to have a different or “better” s*x life? It seems like a given that everybody would want this, and yet most people don’t stop to…
Does “Sleep Divorce” Mean the End?
Anyone over 40 years old knows that sleeping becomes a closely guarded, prized experience. It's how we regenerate and keep our minds clear and focused. It's also hard to come by for many people, and having someone next to you…
Good Vibrations
I’m currently reading Betty Dodson’s Sex for One. I am delighted by her evangelism for the pursuit of pleasure. Starting in the late 1960s, Dodson, an artist, turned her focus toward eroticism. She began drawing nudes, and she had several…
Handling Sexual Rejection
We’ve all been there. In fact, we’ve likely been on both sides of the no, and neither side is easy. You and your partner are feeling frisky, and the interest seems to be mutual and building in heat. And then…
What’s Different About Lesbian Sex?
June is Pride Month 🌈 I’m offering a Pleasure Circle for lesbian and bisexual women in July. I’m also dedicating this newsletter to the topic of my PhD dissertation: Sex Therapy with Lesbians. My goal was to contribute insight about how same-sex…