There’s a quiet concern I hear often in therapy rooms and inboxes alike: “I love my partner… but sex feels like another thing on my to-do list.” If you’ve found yourself thinking this, you’re not broken, and neither is your relationship.…
Why It Matters Let’s talk about something that’s been hiding in plain sight: The orgasm gap. Across countless studies (and probably countless bedrooms), one pattern keeps showing up: In heterosexual encounters, men are significantly more likely to orgasm than women. And this isn’t about…
Few topics make couples freeze faster than the word porn. Some people watch it together. Some watch privately. Some don’t want it in the picture at all. And yet, porn often becomes a silent player in relationships, shaping expectations, desire, and…
Good Sex Evolves. Here’s Why That’s a Good Thing When we think about “good sex,” most of us imagine heat, spontaneity, and that electric pull you feel when everything just clicks. But over time, years into a relationship, sex often changes. The…
Few words make people squirm quite like lube. Somehow, this simple, useful, glorious little helper has gotten wrapped up in shame, awkwardness, and outdated assumptions like it’s only for “older people” or those who “have a problem.” But here’s the truth:…
Jessica came to see me for sex therapy. She doesn’t understand why she doesn’t want sex with her partner. She wants to want it, but most of the time she could go without. Our work together is not linear. Rather,…
I’m currently reading Betty Dodson’s Sex for One. I am delighted by her evangelism for the pursuit of pleasure. Starting in the late 1960s, Dodson, an artist, turned her focus toward eroticism. She began drawing nudes, and she had several…